Children may not be able to express their feelings and thoughts as much as you do. The reason for this may be that his vocabulary is not developed, he has problems with self-confidence, shyness, and fear of being misunderstood.

Children may not be able to express their feelings and thoughts as much as you do. The reason for this may be that his vocabulary is not developed, he has problems with self-confidence, shyness, and fear of being misunderstood. A good understanding of child psychology is the basis for communicating with him. When appropriate communication is established with children, you will see that they develop ideas like adults and evaluate events within the framework of cause and effect.

You may need to make behavioral inferences about things that children cannot express verbally. These inferences will vary according to the developmental stage of the child.

Here are some suggestions that will help you understand and communicate with children in a healthy way:



Observe: Observe your child eating, playing, sleeping. Every child is different. Try to understand his abilities, skills, behavior, habits. 

Listen to your child: Let the children express themselves, tell their problem. Don’t interrupt. Listen carefully. Make him feel that you value what he has to say. React to what they say. Look into their eyes while talking, don’t be busy with anything else. Approve and congratulate the suggestions you see fit. Looking into his eyes while talking will cause him to understand you and feel how you might react.

Although your child sometimes has dreams, they are mostly about what they experience and feel during the day. Listening carefully will help you to know and understand him.

Sometimes what they say can be dreams, unreal events, lies. Listen to this without judgment. React to the rhetoric you see as wrong without offending him or alienating him from you. Be a guide when talking to him. Consider their imagination.

Think like a child: When listening to your child, do not expect him to have as much control over everything as you do. Doesn’t always understand things like an adult. He evaluates according to his own world and thoughts. Be patient, think like him. Answer their questions one by one and patiently. This shows that you care about him.

Analyze their discourse and drawings: Children can mean a lot to you with their discourse and pictures. How a child draws his parents, depicting his family, can show your image in his head. He can picture his expectation from you. You can understand your child’s wishes, thoughts and demands from what they produce.

Play games: Play games with your child the way they want. Getting into their world helps you get to know it. Children sometimes show their feelings and thoughts through games. When appropriate, play is a therapy method for the child. The toys that the child chooses during the game, the game heroes and the sentences he uses give important ideas about the child. Sometimes, the child can show the problem he sees in his parents and his expectations from them with a game.

Let the child guide you during the game. Taking the role of mother and father in the play may reflect the figure of mother and father in his eyes.

Communicate by talking to them: Talk to children. Use simple sentences instead of long sentences in your conversations. Check their reaction from time to time. Allow them to join your conversation. Don’t make long or technical conversations that distract them. Talk about your child’s interests. Do not be judgmental or scolding in your spoken language.

Don’t leave their questions unanswered: Answer your child’s question appropriately. Do not leave questions unanswered. Unanswered questions may indicate that you are not interested in him or that you are not knowledgeable enough. This damages your image, disrupts your communication, and undermines their trust in you. Instead of short answers such as yes or no to questions, give descriptive answers that are not boring.

Don’t lie: Don’t lie to your child about things you can’t do. Make promises you can keep. Don’t lie about things where he can learn the truth in the future.